Carolyn Hax: She’s anti-mask and anti-vax. Can their friendship survive?
Both options represent a decision, at least, where the absence of one creates the void into which obsessive worry expands. So make up your mind and take the steps: either to recover the friendship — a little grace, a lot of perspective, some lowered expectations, no budging on things that count, and a blunt opener such as, “You’re wrong but I love you — can we stay friends?”; or recover from its loss. Sometimes that’s all we can do. People change and their alchemy together changes.