Sienna Miller felt ‘sad’ in her 30s as she thought she would be married with ‘three kids’ by then


Sienna Miller has said she spent years investing in a relationship with someone who was ‘a bucket with a hole in it of a person’.

The actress, 40, revealed she thought she would be married with children by her 30s but the relationships she was in during those years didn’t work out.

Speaking to British Vogue, Sienna said: ‘I’d invested what felt like the important years in something that was just a bucket with a hole in it of a person. I wasted time. And I felt like time was really my currency.’ 

Candid: Sienna Miller has said she spent years investing in a relationship with someone who was ‘a bucket with a hole in it of a person’

She was quick to point out she was not referring to Tom Sturridge, who she dated from 2011 to 2015 and shares daughter Marlowe, ten, with.  

Prior to her relationship with Tom, Sienna was engaged to fellow actor Jude Law in 2004 after he popped the question on Christmas Day.

He apologised to her in July of the following year for having an affair with the nanny of his children.

Sienna also had a highly publicised affair with the actor Bathlazar Getty in 2008. 

Interview: The actress, 40, also revealed she thought she would be married with children by her 30s but the relationships she was in during those years didn't work out

Interview: The actress, 40, also revealed she thought she would be married with children by her 30s but the relationships she was in during those years didn’t work out

Reflecting on her thirties being difficult, she added: ‘There was a lot of anxiety. Relationships hadn’t worked out – I imagined that I would be married with three kids, being a great mum. I love being a mother. It’s what I do best.’ 

Now, Sienna is dating model Oli Green, 15 years her junior, saying: ‘There’s a misogyny that is ingrained in men of my age and older that I don’t see in [the] generation below’. 

Sienna’s ex Tom is now in a relationship with presenter and fashion designer Alexa Chung with the actress saying she is ‘really happy’ for the couple.

She said: ‘It’s genuinely lovely. Marlowe comes home with Alexa’s jumpers that I steal. I’ve got one upstairs.’

Couple: Sienna is in a relationship with model Oli Green, 15 years her junior, saying: 'There's a misogyny that is ingrained in men of my age and older that I don't see in [the] generation below' (pictured in June 2022)

Couple: Sienna is in a relationship with model Oli Green, 15 years her junior, saying: ‘There’s a misogyny that is ingrained in men of my age and older that I don’t see in [the] generation below’ (pictured in June 2022) 

On her unconventional co-parenting set-up, including spending lockdown in Upstate New York with respective partners at the time, Sienna said: ‘I had my then boyfriend. And Tom’s then girlfriend came and… it was definitely eccentric.

‘I can’t go into detail but the wheels came off and everything went horribly wrong.’ […] ‘It will make a fantastic play.’

Sienna said she was ‘excited’ to turn 40, adding: ‘As a young woman I was so trivialised and so insubstantial-seeming, but there’s very little that anyone can say to a 40-year-old woman. And I also don’t give a f**k. 

‘It was such a headline in my life – what people thought of me. It was so loud that I believed it. Now I’ve got to a point where it’s absolutely none of your business.’

Former flame: Sienna was quick to point out she is not referring to Tom Sturridge, who she dated from 2011 to 2015 and shares daughter Marlowe, ten, with (pictured in 2015)

Former flame: Sienna was quick to point out she is not referring to Tom Sturridge, who she dated from 2011 to 2015 and shares daughter Marlowe, ten, with (pictured in 2015)

The actress also discussed the issue of the gender pay gap in showbusiness, revealing how she was offered less than half of what her male co-star was going to earn in a Broadway play she did several years ago. 

Sienna said: ‘I said to the producer, who was extremely powerful, it’s not about money – it’s about fairness and respect, thinking they’d come back and say, “Of course, of course.” But they didn’t. They just said, “Well f**k off then.”

‘I realised I had every right to be equally subsidised for the work that I would have done.’ 

Ex: Prior to her relationship with Tom, Sienna was engaged to fellow actor Jude Law in 2004 after he popped the question on Christmas Day (pictured in 2010)

Ex: Prior to her relationship with Tom, Sienna was engaged to fellow actor Jude Law in 2004 after he popped the question on Christmas Day (pictured in 2010)

The late actor Chadwick Boseman reallocated some of his salary so Sienna’s fee could be met for their 2019 film 21 Bridges, on which Boseman was also a producer:

The actress told him: ‘ “What you did was extraordinary and meant the world.” He came up to me when we wrapped and said, “You got paid what you deserved.” ‘

See the full feature in the December issue of British Vogue available via digital download and on newsstands from Tuesday 15th November.

Confident: Sienna said she was 'excited' to turn 40, adding: 'As a young woman I was so trivialised and so insubstantial-seeming, but there's very little that anyone can say to a 40-year-old woman (pictured in March 2022)

Confident: Sienna said she was ‘excited’ to turn 40, adding: ‘As a young woman I was so trivialised and so insubstantial-seeming, but there’s very little that anyone can say to a 40-year-old woman (pictured in March 2022)